Saturation

These days, I find myself utterly saturated with social media. The moment I pick up my phone, there’s a reflexive urge to open Instagram—to check who’s liked my pictures, to see who’s sent me a message. But what greets me more often than not is a reel. Just a forwarded reel. No greeting. No message. No real thought.

And within these reels, there could be something to say, of course. But no one seems to want to say it. Gone are the days when someone might send a poem, or a quote that made them think of you. Now, it’s all mindless content—videos that aren’t remotely funny, often accompanied by that insufferable, artificial background laughter I utterly abhor.

I suppose this is just the sign of our times.

So I’ve found myself pulling away. I don’t use my phone as much anymore. I go on social media only when necessary. I’ll put up a post now and then, perhaps out of a quiet desire to remain ‘relevant’—whatever that means—but even if I’m not, I’ve made my peace with that. I don’t fuss with hashtags anymore. I write what I feel, connect it to the photograph I’m sharing, and that’s that.

What keeps drawing me back, really, are the friends. The connections I’ve made on social media mean something. I remember how vibrant it felt during the lockdown—going live, making videos on TikTok, the spontaneity of it all. TikTok, in particular, had an algorithm that worked with you, not against you. It made the video-making process feel fluid and intuitive. Reels, in contrast, feels like a clumsy attempt to fill the vacuum left by TikTok’s ban in India. It simply doesn’t have the same finesse, and I often give up midway through making something.

These days, I browse through stories, maybe glance at my PS5 app. Occasionally, I stumble upon something brilliant on ChatGPT—some insight, some gem of knowledge. But it, too, is a paid service, and eventually, I run out of access for the day. I don’t even like reading on my phone anymore, though I do have a Kindle and a Books app with a few poetry anthologies. When I feel the pull, I’ll read a poem or two.

Phone calls never did appeal to me much. It’s strange to think that this sleek, beautiful device—once an extension of myself—is now being used less than ever. Two or three years ago, I would have been constantly on it. Now, not so much.

As for Twitter—yes, I’m calling it Twitter because X sounds like a porn channel. And let’s be honest, that’s what it’s become for many. I’ve nothing against porn, but Twitter has devolved into a space of relentless hate. It’s vituperative, caustic, and yes—toxic. I don’t use that word lightly, but it fits here.

I do have a Blue Sky account now. It’s a gentler place, kinder in tone. But truly, most of what I want to say these days, I say in my blog. I’ve begun consolidating my poetry, my art, my photography, and my prose—all in one space. And in doing so, I feel a sense of wholeness. A sense that I’m putting something meaningful out there.

Perhaps someone will read it. Perhaps they’ll resonate with it. Perhaps not.

But it’s mine. And it’s real.

I don’t know how many of you will agree with what I’ve said, but this is where I stand. This is how I feel these days.

And maybe you feel it too.

New Domain, Theme and Post

I was just reading a post here on how I used to write copiously when I was young. I loved writing. I still do. But then, I used to use pen and paper and could write furiously. Then I was gifted my first typewriter by an aunt. I used that to write three novels and several shorts. I would clack at it through hours at a time. Then I bought my first computer at the age of 21. I loved it. Loved the process of seeing beautiful fonts enfold out a story.

I lost touch with writing. Drawbacks of a keyboard. Now my pen cannot match the speed of my thoughts, but the keyboard can. There are pros and cons to everything. But I still respect the power of the written word. Handwritten letters are a whole different kind of love story. That brings me to my point.

The wonders and horrors of technology. Everything comes with a pro and a con. I create blogs. Love the process of creation. But it literally comes with a price. My subscription to the domain and usage plans expired this May. I lost out on the name of the blog. The theme I was using I couldn’t afford any more. WordPress knows its business. Makes me suffer. So I had to restructure the entire thing. I am loving and hating the process all at once. Creating and deconstructing.

Thought of writing this blog post. Everything in life comes with a price. Sometimes I can afford it. Sometimes I cannot. But hopefully, in the process of the wear and tear and struggle, I can create something. The art of creation is a violent one, after all. It births out of chaos. So here is hoping to another beginning and an eventual end.

To My Haters

I can just imagine what my haters would say if they knew I was in pain. I can almost hear their smirks. I do not know what strength remains in me to make something more of my heart. I always thought love would be enough to make things alright. As I grew, I realized that that was so far from the truth as Mercury was from Pluto. And that is just a figure of speech for want of a better one. My mind is so full, I cannot even think if the grammar in this blog post would turn out sound.

My last relationship broke my spirit. I have never doubted myself as much even when I had my heart broken by my first love. Perhaps, in my heart of hearts, I tend to hope so deeply that I believe people when they make their promises. And I think I have lost that hope. My last relationship took that from me. It made my heart a barren space which wants to believe but just cannot. It knows that honesty is incomprehensible to most and a promise is of mere importance. Honesty is useless and promises are made to be broken.

That is what I learned. Fear is what I inherited along with a very low self-esteem. Men do not want what I have to offer. They do not want romanticism and passion – there is no space for flowers and no scope for tenderness. Words, they know, ultimately mean nothing and so either they use too few or none at all. But they know how to read me. They know what they see is what they get. Eventually, I am then taken for granted.

As I chose again, I thought that a quieter, calmer soul, principled and sedate in thought, would know how to deal with a broken heart. After all, who better to understand a wound than the one who has had to undergo a similar healing? But in this reflection, I made a mistake. The wound may be similar to the hearts, but the hearts themselves were different.

My heart is affected by my mind. My mind – oof. There lies the rub. It is an unceasing, rotating wheel. If the heart was the sun, Pluto would be the mind. It rotates and revolves regularly – spinning and tossing. Its orbit is fixed. Its five moons run havoc around its own rotation.

The thing is I have been so distracted by my own insecurities that I have allowed people to treat me wrong. Just yesterday, I wondered if I was the reason why some left after appreciating – in the beginning – who I was. It was not that I changed – it was that they expected me to change and I did not. That is saying much. I was never dishonest about who I was and am. I still choose to declare myself openly and with no shame. Their slight was to make me believe I could not be loved as I am. Despite their promises in the beginning that told me they would – for sure.

Because of this, sleep eludes me. I keep wondering whether someone like me shall ever know a peaceful love. Sleep also eludes because I keep waiting for something bad to happen. Waiting for the axe to fall. Waiting for promises to be broken. Waiting for me to be cheated on. Waiting for the lies and the heart break. If only it were easy to trust again. If only I could trust that my trust won’t be betrayed. Again. And worst of all, if I needed to change who I am to make the trusting easier.

It is not healthy thinking. And I am afraid for myself.

And I can know my haters would take such pleasure from this. So this one is for all of you. Cheers.