Making a boyfriend jealous is tricky. One moves down the relationship in time and as the years pass love becomes colder as it grows older. The flame sticks around but the winds are sharper in threat.

It’s sad to try to make the person you love jealous. Because one thinks that’s the only way you can make him exhibit some passion. Or at least the passion he showed when he first decided to pursue you for a relationship.

The tricky part gets trickier when you are surrounded by admirers – exactly in the place he once was – but he’s not threatened by them at all because he knows you so well. Time has instilled in him a confidence to which only your character can be a testament. It’s sadder then, to know he knows you won’t let the other admirers affect you, because he knows you love him so much. Promises are written in stone by then.

So all you can do is then use the time with the others to feel how he once made you feel. Like you were worth it all – his time, attention and effort. Because let’s be honest, we all know we love but the passion flickers in the winds of time. So it’s rather a Catch-22 situation. Others around would say, you are rather taking love for granted.

So as someone pays attention to you, your attention is on him across the room. He knows that and so doesn’t bother to even notice the attempt to make him jealous. Or worse, he does notice it and is laughing inside at your feeble attention to gain some kind of emotional response other than his disparaging humour.

Love is wicked this way. It makes you certain of trust and uncertain of passion. Maybe that is why most people settle – because trust is worthier than passion. No matter how humiliating it can get as time wears on, and you begin to see yourself in the mirror and old anxieties come crawling back.(Not to mention an unsatiated libido.)

So, yea, if one is taken for granted, can’t one also take his love for granted and expect a passionate reaction?